The Art Of Not Giving a FUCK
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Let's remember that there's no one:
Who is completely indifferent to everything
Who doesn’t care about anything or anyone
Who doesn’t care about anything or anyone
Whenever someone makes a point of saying they don’t give a fuck, it’s almost always a dead giveaway that they do. Fucking yeah.
The naked truth is that everyone gives a fuck about something: Money. Love. Power. Sex. Status. Whatever. Even those folks you think of as not giving a fuck such as Pablo Escobar, Ted Bundy, ISIS, the 9/11 hijackers etc. did all give lots of fucks, maybe not about the same things that you or I do, but they did. Everyone does.
It's logically impossible not to give a fuck about something, and it's important to do so sometimes. Just imagine if you don't a damn fuck about work, school, business and friends? You'll fucking probably lose everything then.
But the problem comes up when too many of us give too many fucks about the things that aren’t important and that don’t matter. Like the things we can't change or control at all such as weather, opinions of others or whether someone likes us. This brings only further challenges or internal self conflict.
It might be natural to give a fuck about others' opinions or their approval, but in doing so comes with it's consequences; ending in an emotional roller coaster, doing jobs you don't like or feeling insecure and lonely.
What should you do to stop giving a fuck and be free?
First, understand why it does't matter at all- most of the people are very self-conscious to judge you. Believe it or not, even the most confident men and women sometimes are worried about what others think of them. So don't assume you're the only one who is self-aware of others' opinions.
Don't seek the approval of anyone. Never! Be it your parents, partners, friends or foes. Showing respect is one but needing their consent is the worst thing. Because you'll always try to impress them and not yourself. And that would be the start of living a fucked up life.
Don't do the following:
First, understand why it does't matter at all- most of the people are very self-conscious to judge you. Believe it or not, even the most confident men and women sometimes are worried about what others think of them. So don't assume you're the only one who is self-aware of others' opinions.
Don't seek the approval of anyone. Never! Be it your parents, partners, friends or foes. Showing respect is one but needing their consent is the worst thing. Because you'll always try to impress them and not yourself. And that would be the start of living a fucked up life.
Don't do the following:
- Apologizing when you've nothing to be sorry for
- Asking permission when it's not needed
- Laughing at things that aren't funny
- Over agreeing and seeking rapport at all costs
- Trying to be someone you are not
- Fishing for compliments
- Spending time you don't have or with people you don't like
It's liberating when you stop caring what others think of you and your life as no one can manipulate your actions and decisions. And as I said earlier, most people aren't even thinking about you but about themselves!
The thing is that people will always complain or criticize you no matter what you do or say. There is no one time you can make everyone happy. No one ever did nor will ever do. Period.
The main problem with giving too many fucks about what other people think, is that you become afraid to take chances, your comfort zone starts to shrink, and you start holding back in life. So don't be a prisoner to others' opinions. Older people always tells us about their regrets on listening or caring about other people's opinions and not living life to the fullest.
So ask yourself if what's bothering you matters. If it doesn't, then don't give a fuck. If it does, do something about it. Moreover, do you give a fuck because it matters or just because you've been brainwashed to do so?
Make a clear conscious effort to stop been triggered by things that don't really matter and focus on the important issues that do. It might be difficult at first but with time it would be easy and effortless. Avoid reacting compulsively to what others say to you. Try not to get angered or offended.
You might say that sometimes you can't let everything go just like that. You might want to clap back. You might want to speak and say something. I understand you very well. But don't. Do you even think it make a difference? Because to most people, it doesn't matter whether you say something back or not.
Practice meditation and mindfulness to overcome anger problems. They really help a lot.
Ask yourself some questions about giving a fuck:
After those questions you will realize what matters and what don't and then you will make a happy lifestyle with no future regrets.
Finally try to change the things to can and accept the ones you can't.
Lemme know what you normally do not to give a fuck.
The thing is that people will always complain or criticize you no matter what you do or say. There is no one time you can make everyone happy. No one ever did nor will ever do. Period.
The main problem with giving too many fucks about what other people think, is that you become afraid to take chances, your comfort zone starts to shrink, and you start holding back in life. So don't be a prisoner to others' opinions. Older people always tells us about their regrets on listening or caring about other people's opinions and not living life to the fullest.
So ask yourself if what's bothering you matters. If it doesn't, then don't give a fuck. If it does, do something about it. Moreover, do you give a fuck because it matters or just because you've been brainwashed to do so?
Make a clear conscious effort to stop been triggered by things that don't really matter and focus on the important issues that do. It might be difficult at first but with time it would be easy and effortless. Avoid reacting compulsively to what others say to you. Try not to get angered or offended.
You might say that sometimes you can't let everything go just like that. You might want to clap back. You might want to speak and say something. I understand you very well. But don't. Do you even think it make a difference? Because to most people, it doesn't matter whether you say something back or not.
Practice meditation and mindfulness to overcome anger problems. They really help a lot.
Ask yourself some questions about giving a fuck:
- Will it matter in the future?
- Is it really that important?
- Why would you care?
- Are you brainwashed in caring about bullshit?
After those questions you will realize what matters and what don't and then you will make a happy lifestyle with no future regrets.
Finally try to change the things to can and accept the ones you can't.
Lemme know what you normally do not to give a fuck.
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